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post #1 of 24 (permalink) Old 07-04-2018, 07:04 AM Thread Starter
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I am 54 years young. Lately I have been having a hard time dealing with a realization. I realize that my life will never be or go the way I was hoping. Before I got my Vegas I bought a dual sport Honda and was riding all over the mountain wilderness in my area. My wife and I talked about it and she said she wished we could go out and ride together so we bought the Vegas. Granted it is not a bagger but she has gone on very few rides with me. Saying it is just not as comfy as she would like. So we bought a "Butt Buddy". She doesn't like how it sits her up higher than the stock seat and makes the backrest to low on her back. Since I was a kid I dreamed of having a big bike and riding around traveling. I have come to the realization that this will not happen in my lifetime. Money is to tight to ever upgrade to something like a CCT or a Vision. Even at that I don't know if she would ride with me much. I don't know. Maybe I am just facing my own mortality and having a rough go. I don't know. Just been feeling down lately. All I seem to do is work and we just never go out anymore and have fun since her health has degraded over the last few years and she seems to have given up in some ways. Not looking for help or warm fuzzy responses. Just getting it off my chest so I can hopefully move on.

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It seems life is getting more and more complicated when you get older, everything was just so easy before .... Now it all seems a struggle to accomplish anything ... My wife bought me 2 vics and she never rides with me ...

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Phil, you friggin' live on Mt. Shasta!!!! One the most beautiful and Sasquatchy-ist places on Earth ....Sell that Vegas, get back on a dual-sport with some camping gear. Then get the hell out of that house into the wilderness and enjoy life. If by chance you have a Squatch encounter..just think about the excitement and adrenaline surge that will get you
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I feel your pain, Phil. I was unceremoniously let go from a big corporation in Canada in march 2012. The 2008 recession in the US affected us here and I took a major hit on investments. Like a 220k plus hit as I tried to ride it out. (I was convinced by my investment guy it would all come back. It didnt) and then in 2012 some bean counter got the idea that if they let managers close to retirement go it would save a bunch of money. I had enough years of service to get a pension but wasnt old enough to get a full pension. So instead of getting 72k per year pension..i got 18k. At the age of 51 I was looking for work after 33 yrs with same company in a specialized industry that hires young inexperienced & cheap for the same positions now. I tried to explore my passions on the physical labour side..carpentry, electrical. Thx to history of carpal tunnel only good for home projects. It took me 5 yrs to find the job I have today doing delivery. It pays the bills but I don't date (too expensive) I don't travel beyond what I can afford to do on my bike.My entertainment and social life revolves around having my Magnum. Otherwise I'd probably stay at home, read and watch tv. Some weeks, months when I get hit with unexpected bills, I don't do much riding either. But its all I got. 57 Sept 1st. I don't care much for birthdays anymore. I don't know if I have much for regrets. I did what I could. But yeah my retirement plan went completely out the window.

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My wife no longer rides. She had 3 different motorcycles. 2 Hondas and then a Vegas. I lowered it 1 inch and got the touring set and the one up luggage rack. She could ride that scooter all day long. She was in her late 40's when she started riding. Put due to health she stopped about 7 years ago. She seldom rides behind me. I still ride and tour. I have a few riding buddy's and we do about 4 runs a year. I'm riding to Sturgis at the end of the month. This will probably be my last long trip. Then it will be 3 or 4 day runs. Mostly in Texas. My body is about wore out, neck, hip and back. This will probably be my last scooter. If I do get another one. It will be light and small, like a sportster. I've been riding 50 years.
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I've been through what each one of you have named and I still keep going. Been laid off probably 10 times. Fired once... We all have family and friends that count on us. I would love to be in my 50's again. BIG difference in 50 something and I'll be 71 this year. I'm thankful for every day I have especially after 2 heart surgery's and multiple other surgery's. I still ride hard and fast and enjoy every minute even though the wife doesn't ride. That's fine with me anyway. I don't like passengers. Cause if I wreck she would say " Why did you do that "
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After multiple back surgeries, a total knee, etc. at 61 the body just doesn't want to cooperate like it used to. Almost died in January of blood clots in both lungs and one in the leg, ICU for over a week. A anti-inflammatory medication I had been taking to help with my back was stopped by my Doc as it was detrimental when combined with the xarelto I now have to take til I croak. I'll still ride until the day I can no longer hold the bike up, and maybe then go to a trike.

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@toejam Ha! I can totally see your coccyx.....

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Yeah toejam I'm on the blood thinner too. (eliquis) So if I crash and bleed, that's where I'll die. ... Glad your tough enough to keep on riding

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I think part of the answer is to find something that both you and your wife enjoy that you can do together. My wife doesn't ride with me either, but honestly I wouldn't want her to and she doesn't want to either. So, instead we go places together in our car. Short vacations...over to see our son who lives about 35 miles from us, over to Disney which is about an hour drive on way, etc.

I live in central Florida and I have always wanted to ride in the mountains....like the Blue Ridge Parkway. But it's too far away for me to ride my motorcycle, and not exactly a trip I would want to take in my truck with a big heavy bike in the rear. And at 65 and now having an ear problem that requires a "low salt" diet, it probably just won't happen. I can live with that. Sometimes things just don't work out the way you had hoped for. I've got a old brother who lives just down the street. He rides a new HD. For the most part I never see him...and that is just the way it is. Just make it the best you can and count your blessings. I'm sure they are many. If you keep feeling down, and not sure why, you may have a slight body chemical issue.
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